5 Common Sex Problems and How You Can Resolve It

common sex problems

Not only is a healthy sex life essential to a happy, loving relationship but also crucial to improve your chances of conception. Once you and your partner decide to have a baby, your life will start to revolve around things like an ovulation calculator, fertile window calculator, pregnancy kit and so on. In the midst of all this, it’s too easy to overlook problems that may arise during sex that could actually interfere with your chances of conception as well as your relationship as a whole. Here, we talk about some common sex problems and what you can do to solve them. 

1. Common Sex Problems - Emotional intimacy

Emotional intimacy refers to the way partners trust, respect and interact with each other. Affection for each other also makes for a part of emotional intimacy. Lack of emotional intimacy will directly impact your sex life, as this will make you not want to have sex with your partner. 

Spending more time together as a couple can work wonders to foster communication and bring you closer. More communication leads to a better understanding of each other’s needs, problems and so on. Frankly tell each other about your sexual needs and wants. Being honest about what you think and being empathetic about your partner’s feelings will give both of you a sense of direction and help figure a way out. 

2. Common Sex Problems -Sexual desire

Find yourself or your partner not being in the mood for sex more frequently than usual? A drop in the desire to have sex could be linked to exhaustion, stress, fatigue, and various other mental and physical factors. It is natural to not feel like having sex on some days in particular. But it’s a problem when that phase continues to stretch out. In this day and age, people spend more time at work and in commutes than they do at home. That coupled with the demands of career as well as social life can leave you drained. Fatigue affects your libido, which in turn leads to poor arousal, which affects your performance in bed. 

Exercise well, maintain a healthy diet, and take measures to reduce anxiety, stress, and fatigue. If this persists for over six months, you may want to consult a doctor and check your hormones. If hormonal imbalance is not the problem, then seek a sexologist or sex therapist for better guidance. 

3. Common Sex Problems - Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is a common sexual dysfunction and about 30-40% men in India suffer from it. One of the most harmful effects of premature ejaculation is performance anxiety. This anxiety can make men withdraw from sex completely. Support and encouragement mean a great deal to a man suffering from premature ejaculation, and as his partner, one should even accompany him to the doctor. 

A trained sexologist can help ease this problem by suggesting treatment methods. 

Be patient and kind to yourself as well as your partner. Work through any of these difficulties together and don’t hesitate to seek professional help. In case you have any doubts, feel free to ask us in the comments.

4.  Common Sex Problems - Painful Sex

An estimated 30% of women experience pain during sexual intercourse in their lives. This can take a toll on the sex life and the relationship too. Some conditions that can lead to painful sex are: 

Vaginismus - When a woman fears the pain of penetration, the muscles at the entrance of the vagina contract involuntarily causing actual pain. Vaginismus is a psychological issue which can be cured with the help of a sexologist.

Vaginal dryness - Vaginal dryness can be caused by anxiety, medication, irritants and dehydration. A drop in the oestrogen levels during menopause can also lead to vaginal dryness. However, it can be eased by using lubricants or engaging in more foreplay to induce lubrication.

Vaginal infections - Infections can lead to intense itching and burning sensation in and around the vagina. Being contagious, it can also be passed on to your partner. If you feel a burning sensation or itching, then consult your doctor or gynaecologist immediately. 

5. Common Sex Problems - Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to sustain an erection, to achieve ejaculation or both. It is a common issue among men. Stress, anxiety, smoking, alcohol consumption, diabetes, high cholesterol and high blood pressure can lead to erectile dysfunction. Lack of intimacy, body image issues, and performance pressure can make this worse. 

 Apart from oral medication, mechanical devices, behavioural training and couples counselling can also help tackle erectile dysfunction. But avoid self-medicating and be sure to consult with a doctor first.


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