While wanting to have a second child is completely the prerogative of the couple, it does require some planning and preparation. And in this regard, timing is everything. Because another child completely changes the family dynamics. Not only that, now you need to prepare your firstborn for the newcomer too. So, when is the right time to have another child? Let’s figure it out.
It’s important to consider how old your first child is. If your child is too young i.e. still in diapers or breastfeeding, he’s still in the phase where he needs plenty of attention. Besides, while he may be too young to understand what’s happening, he definitely can understand that something different is happening. If you’re too busy focusing on your second infant to pay attention to your firstborn, it may create an unhealthy atmosphere for them. You’ll have to divide all your time and attention between both kids equally and that’s NOT an easy task at all.
A larger gap gives you the time to fully recover from your first pregnancy and bring your health back on track, as well as spend some quality time with your firstborn and develop a deep bond, which will come in useful when you’re preparing them to welcome their sibling.
Studies suggest that waiting for 18 to 23 months before trying for another child is ideal. An age gap of two to four years is suggested to produce more chaos and sibling rivalry. On the contrary, a gap of more than five years is likely to produce a more understanding relationship between the siblings, but they may not be as close to each other due to the difference in age.
Your financial status
Raising a child in this day and age is one big expensive affair. There’s childcare costs, healthcare, schooling and overall development of not one but two kids to take into consideration. You and your partner will need to save for their future accordingly too. Having your finances sorted and stabilised before you try for a second child will take off a chunk of stress from your family.
Giving birth to a baby is no small feat. It takes a toll on you and wreaks all kinds of havoc with your body. In case you faced any complications during or after your first , you may want to wait until you’ve fully recovered. Don’t forget to take your mental health into consideration either. If you’re too stressed or battling depression, it might not be the best decision to have a second child just yet. Definitely check with your doctor as to when is the best time to try again first.
. As you grow older, your fertility reduces, and will reduce your chances of having another child. Conceiving at a late stage can also make you vulnerable to complications during pregnancy. This is especially important to consider if you had your first baby late in life. Therefore, it would be prudent to visit and talk things through with your gynaecologist first.
It is important to sit down with your partner and have a lengthy conversation about how both of you feel about extending your family. What are the goals you have as a unit? Why do you want another baby? How will you balance your careers at the same time? All of these are important questions, and talking it out will give both of you some much-needed clarity on whether and when you should try again.
Whenever you decide to have a second child, you know it’s going to be the best decision you made as a family. With a little foresight and a better plan, you can have the most enriching experience together!